if u don't want sex then don't feel pressured. But if you want to try to hav sex then i suggest to take things slow and cuddle and kiss a lot as well as the sex acts. Because that will have you feeling cared for while your husband gets what he needs also. Maybe negotiate a sex act or position that you feel most comfortable in doing. Or an amount of time to have sex for. Guys resent it if they can't have sex but its still your choice and don't feel pressured to do anything. Remind him he has a hand if you really don't want to be sexual, while he gives himself a hand you could cuddle or kiss so he feels close to you.hope this has helped.