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wow, this all sounds like really hard info to absorb. like ktgirl i also think it must be unethical for your pdoc and old t to not have disclosed that they were married since pdoc referred you to old t. i don't know what the law is on that but it really doesn't sit right with me.

you know, your t should have referred you or at least have been forthright and said she wasn't trained to deal with your diagnosis but if you wanted to continue with her she would get the necessary help to be able to treat you. or she could have had you see a trauma or DID specialist in addition to seeing her for the regular therapy stuff. unfortunately, it doesn't sound like she was very professional with you in this regard. i am really sorry you went thru all that. it doesn't mean she didn't care as it may have been she wanted to keep treating you because she did care despite her lack of training. obviously, it was not in your best interests to do things the way she did though. i hope new t can help you process this and what if anything you should do.