Thank you Willow for the advice. I am trying very hard not to fall into the codependency trap. You're not kidding when you say it's a delicate balance. Sooo easy to let the frustration get the better of me and then I respond in anger instead of a position of calm resolve. I do have a counselor. When I am feeling strong I take a break from her but the door is always open for me to return. Thanks again. -D