I would tell him you would feel better waiting until the divorce is final, or at least valid. That's legitimate and would give you more time to think things through. I know how difficult it is to change the type of man we are typically attracted to, those not conducive to our long-term well being. I don't know what type yours was, but mine tended to be jobless. There actually are those who will be a constructive change and will still have the chemisty. There really are. And you may not yet know whether this guy is one of them. After the divorce, you might give it another shot, if you choose, and try concentrating on his attractive qualities. Just a thought, but I'm not a good one to be handing out relationship advice for sure! billieJ