first off I would like to say that if she in fact did have him sign papers I would have him to go the courthouse in the county she lives in to see if it was filed and/or finalized. since there seemed to be some confusion there. a divorce packet is many pages normally but only a couple are given back. that is final settlement and custody/child support agreement. do that first before getting too upset. then if it is then put the ball in his court and tell him it is either you or her. good luck.