I'm not sure about Texas but my dad and mom got divorced and then my dad and step-mom got divorced - both in Ohio. Neither divorce was contested by either party and, the second time around, I was 17 but living on my own so there was nothing to do with child support or anything and it took YEARS. I'm not sure how laws differ or how much they have to separate but my dad and step-mom had to sell their house that they bought together and sell all their properties (they flipped houses together) to be able to split finances down the middle. Plus, if there is any kind of child support or custody battles it could take even longer. It took my biological parents years as well to officially get divorced because all 3 of us were under 18 when they separated and each child had different custody (which doesn't make sense to me but whatever).

I do agree, however, that if he was really ready to let go that he would be more persistent with the divorce proceedings. Sometimes people stay "married" because it's cheaper. My cousin and her husband lived on opposite sides of the country because neither had the money for a lawyer and the costs to get divorced.

I don't think that he is necessarily hung up on her - but it does seem weird that you didn't find out about any of this until AFTER you got engaged. And one thing to think of - if he acts like this with her then it might not be the best thing to get married if you're finding out about this "secret" life he's had. A lot of people think that if you get pregnant, you have to get married and that's not true. If he is a deceitful type of person that hides things like that, it sounds like maybe you SHOULDN'T get married anyways.

I'm not trying to sound rude but I think that if my boyfriend got me pregnant, then asked me to get married and THEN I found out that he was STILL married to another woman - there would be no question about it, I would leave. Just my opinion.