Tree- I learn so much from you. So much about growing up. I dont even know what growing up is, but what you wrote truly is what growing up must feel like. I also want to say how remarkable it is that you feel so connected and are so close to t so soon after your rupture. And the truth is, that is a good example of how he has re-parented you. A good, loving parent is consistant. As t is. You are upset, he is upset, you have a rupture, you talk, it is hard, but your relationship is exaclty the same. He is the same as he was, if not even closer than he was before. You know each other well. This is a REAL relationship. I am learning how to grow up from you. And from your t who we all have never met!
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Originally Posted by Treehouse
I wonder if maybe, maybe I am growing up a little?? Letting myself feel the things I need, and trying to find ways to give them to myself. And admitting to myself that I HAVE the needs, and that I feel a little sad.
I DID sit with H when he woke up. I didn't say anything - just sat under a blanket on the couch with him and held his hand. I did tell him to think about me for a minute (instead of work or whatever) so I would know he was there with me. And he did. That was good.
Maybe I CAN find ways to get what I need. Still, I'd rather see T today  |
In the end, Tree, this is what it is all about. You'd rather see t, but look how gentle and nurturing you are with yourself. To aks for what you need and to even give yorself a break when you feel you need it. What a lesson for all of us. I know you feel sad and you want t, but look how much you love Tree and Tree Littles. You have so much love to give and you are giving it to the most important person! And you even looked to H for what you need. Im going to do that with my H because you could do it with your H. Thank you, Tree
