I applaud you for having the courage to even ask this question. Be empowered to do what your heart tells you is the right thing to do. And... do it for you, not for anyone else. If you decide to keep it quiet for a while or forever, do it because it's the best thing for YOU not because you're needing to protect anyone else. If you decide to tell family members, do it because it's good, because it's empowering, or because it's freeing you from being held captive by the secrets. Don't tell because it's out of any sense of wanting to do anything for or against anyone else.

Like I said, I think you're awesome for even thinking about it... especially if you've been managing this all alone. I managed mine all alone for a long, long time. When I finally went into therapy I was a basket case, or so I thought. The reality of it was that I had done super human things to keep myself going and therapy was so affirming and reassuring.

Get yourself a strong support team around you that is there totally for you - with no vested interest in the outcome of what happens when/if you "tell." That way your affirmation will be ready and standing by no matter what happens.

Again... applaud yourself for your courage. I do!!