Hello everybody. Need your advice. Got into a tricky situation.
I am a confident looking girl while I am actually pretty shy.
I met a few months ago an interesting guy at a friend's working place. I talked to him thinking he would remember me. He didn't but was obviously pleased that I said hello. He showed great interest in me and asked when he would see me again. I didn't really react coz I wasn't ready for anything. A week later I met him again and he acted like a complete stranger (amnesia ?). When I said that wasn't very nice he yelled at me !!! He immediately apologized. I was too stunned to be angry and I didn't have the feeling this was really against me (more against himself).
A week later I met him by chance when I was shopping. I said hello. He ran away. Things were getting interesting (Ha! Ha!). After the holidays, he became very friendly, but still distant. OK. Beats me. In the following weeks I noticed that he knew my schedule by heart, he was smiling at me like I was a lottery win, asking very private questions, checking if I had a boyfriend, AT THE SAME TIME pushing me away like I had the plague (excuses : I am a jerk, I hate women, I have a girlfriend nobody knows about, I don't want to owe a woman anything, I am happy to be alone...). He always seems to fight with himself when I meet him. He wouldn't even have a simple drink with me, but inquires when I would like to have one. He says that he doesn't want anything from me, but asks what I want from him. I asked him to stop playing around. He realized just then that his behavior was contradictory (until then he thought he was Mother Theresa because he often listened to my problems).
Now he has started all over again. He seems to think that I am chasing him to the moon, but I don't have the feeling I am doing anything out of the usual anymore. Since our discussion I have been only friendly but whatever I say is taken as proof that I want to grab him, marry him (and make him miserable?). He doesn't need me anymore to drive himself crazy. What on earth did I activate here ? I don't like this automatic pilot but I feel helpless and I am not sure it would be good for my mental health to expect anything in this lifetime. It would be much easier if I knew he didn't care, but despite my natural distrust, I am not convinced : too many excuses, too emphatic. Last time I saw him, he was hiding in his office. Since then I have avoided the office. It is getting too stupid. I will have to go back in a month or two. What should I do ? Become angry ? indifferent ? just pretend to be all of this ? tell him to stop this once and for all ? write this, let him ponder and turn up a few weeks later?
Some friends say : FORGET IT ! HE`S A JERK!!, others say : DON'T GIVE UP, COULD BE THE RIGHT GUY, BUT THE WRONG TIME. One thing for sure. This can't go on like that. After all, he may be interested but on a superficial level. He has his kid and his buddies to keep him very busy. Why should he need me ? He's been single for years. Usually he treats women like buddies. <font color="purple"> </font> <font color="purple"> </font> <font color="purple"> </font> <font color="black"> </font>