Melba
You're so brave!!!
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Originally Posted by Melbadaze
She said, "do you think being held would resolve the deep needs you have"? I know she was inviting me to hug, but she of course won't say let me hug you, or make the first move physically, but man, she couldnt be more ready then what she is.
She said you seem afraid that you won't be able to "digest" these feelings and your afraid that I won't either.
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This touches my heart! Last week, I was so happy to find out that T does give out hugs, yet I've had 2 sessions to ask for a hug... T has even lingered before opening the door at the end of my sessions... and I still haven't asked for a hug. You described what I've been feeling perfectly - I'm afraid that if I do finally hug T, I'll overwhelm her and myself with my strong feelings. In my mind, I'm making it out to be more than just a hug - it's like your T said, I have this notion that being held by someone whom I feel safe with will resolve those needs I have that were never met. And it's not like this is a new notion, I've thought this way for years.
So, as much as I'd absolutely love to reach out to T for a hug, I'm still scared to do it. I suppose I should follow your brave example and discuss that with T next week!
