Hi cypher....

What extends outward are the behaviors we attach to feelings. Feelings never hurt anyone but obviously actions do.

The point I was inadequate in relating was that we are not in any way responsible for another persons feelings nor even what they do with them. If they are insensitive and say things that are hurtfull and damaging I cannot change those things.

But I can change how I feel about them and how they effect me. I can say that I will not measure myself, my worth, my value or potential on the feelings of others unless I have determinined that there is value in those opinions. That determination normally comes from measuring how they treat others....and themselves consistently over a period of time.

I am sorry if I seemed insensitive cypher,,I know that you are hurting.

Lenny