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Originally Posted by theotterone
This has to be the #1 issue between D and I. It is even something we are working on in Therapy together.
With our stress level so very high with his dad here, we have to put aside our own issues for a bit. It's hard, but we have to do it.
When we try to communicate with each other, we are so defensive that it is hard to hear each other. Try to bring stuff up without blame. When we have such high stress, it is hard not to take what the other person is saying as blame.
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I hear what you are saying, my husband is going through alot of internal pain and I am struggleing with the fact that I may not be a canidate for the epelepsy surgery, so that is why our stress level is so high, but I do alot of journaling, and we have our own section of the house that we go to when things get to rough, and I do my journaling, and he does his thing. And that helps with his stress level. We give it a couple hours, and then we are level headed enough to talk calmly. But it is hard to not bring up blame.