Today T wanted to talk about the e-mail I sent yesterday. He talked about his feelings when he read it, and I talked about my feelings when I sent it.

I told him that I've started wondering..why couldn't I treat me the same way I treat other people? We talked about grace. I told him that maybe, MAYBE, I can be as gentle with myself as I am with everyone else.

And T got tears in his eyes It IS a big realization to me, and it felt good to see that T could understand what a big deal it is.

T has had tears before about sad things in therapy, but this is the first time he teared up about a happy thing. I him.