My parents divorced when I was 5 y/o. I visited my biological dad during summer & Christmas break. Things were okay; not great, not terrible. My dad has always been a selfish person. Whatever, I can't change him.

During the past month or so I have talked to him twice. I mentioned I had left voicemails on his work cell phone. He told me he has three months of vacation saved and is using some of it. LIE.

My half brother told his mom that our dad has been laid off at work. His mom told my aunt. Who told my mom. Who told me.

That isn't a big problem for my dad as he is 74 y/o with a nice retirement plan.

So I am wondering why he is being deceptive. It is likely his current wife (wife #5) told my brother. My dad usually comes to my farm to hunt deer during Thanksgiving. If he doesn't want to come fine. I asked if he is coming to hunt this year and he says he is undecided. I would be relieved if he and my brother and brother-in-law do NOT come because it is a lot of work to clean the house and cook their meals for several days.

So should I keep pretending I don't know he isn't working? I wonder if he feels he would be obliged to visit if I knew he is not working. Or something else... He is strange.