I think this is so true. My relationship with T has DRAMATICALLY changed my relationship with H. I now know what it feels like to be heard, and cared for, and to speak up about my needs and feelings, and it's made me step out of my "comfort zone" in my marriage. It was a rocky change at first, but things are so much better now. And I feel like I've learned from T how to listen, and how to own my own stuff, and I know that H likes that. Things are just so much better, and I really believe it's because I got to "practice" in the safety of therapy.

Sunny, what you did was so, so, so brave. You took a BIG risk, and look what happened....you found out that you CAN bring up difficult things with people (at least with T!!) and they can hear you and you can sort it out and move forward, together. I really do think that some of my most healing moments in T have come through ruptures...and I think a lot of my closeness with T is a result of working through those difficult times together.

It's obvious that T values your relationship and values YOU. I'm so glad that you were so brave.