melba, this is all so great. you are working really hard and your t sounds wonderfully caring. sunflowers are big suckers and they are so dang cheery too. i like them but i just love gerber daisies. as for what you do after the hug i think anything is ok. you can make a mad dash out the door, be silent, talk about nothing or everything.

that was a safe hug for you if you want it.