You're not "just griping," Hun. It's legitimate! It's a process, but can you get yourself to not have any expectations of your mom? You can almost take it for granted that she's going to lay it on you.

If you want to continue to go out with her and do things with her, have HER set up the appointments, the times, etc. instead of you... or stop planning on doing things with her. Tell her "No, thank you." If she asks why, you can make an excuse or just tell her why but expect a guilt trip.

We can talk about it some more of you want.

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