Just remember that you are in a business relationship with your T. If a contracter for you house isn't listening to what you need done in your house you will fire him. Same goes with a T. It is nothing to feel bad about.
Zen

PS I realize that is cold and simplifying but at the core of the issue I believe it is true. I guess I need this rationalization to protect myself from become to attached to me T.

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The path is narrow to the right madness. Be wary of trembling in the wrong places! The demons often disguise themselves as gods. And vice versa.--Sam Keen