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Originally Posted by cypher
Ok, that was uncalled for. I'm sorry. Obviously, this is a hot issue for me and everyone who's posted here. Here I am trying to make friends and now I'm going off on everyone. I apologize if I offended anyone or if I was too controversial. Again, story of my life.
Hope everyone I upset forgives me. Are we ok now?  Mike |
that's okay...that's what you feel, but not a good feelings though...
we choose our friends, but we stuck with our family members....no change in them really...that's how they are...and they will be our sisters, brothers, uncles, aunts, cousins and mother and father....no change of the person...you can go get married, then divorce and change the partner, but no way you can change your mother....you stuck with her forever....but wishing dead is not constructive at all....probably, you should change your mind and wish them so much happiness that they get so busy then they don't care about your life anymore....
and the other hand, why are you so concern about them what they think or want from you? who cares? I always have this conversation with my sisters, we always want to make mom happy but that's not possible....she likes stuff that we don't...well...I talked to her...I told her we are adult and we make our own choices....she wasn't happy with that, but she doesn't have a choice! she constantly complaining about my sisters to me and I hate that, because I love them so much....and I know mom is complaining about me to them too...that's how it works...but deep down I know she loves us so much and she wants a best for us in her own way....her way might not work for us anymore, but she's still my mom...and she still the person who gave me birth and loves me so much no matter what I do or who I am.....
take care of yourself and be good to them....just don't discuss the stuff that is way from their beliefs, and agree with them verbally, then they don't bother you anymore!
best of luck
Marjan