How frustrating. I know it was hard for me to recognize my parents are human and make mistakes. On the flip side, I have never had to deal with manipulation and lying so much since I met my FIL.
He has moved in and has been trying to maneuver within my husband's and my relationship and the family power structure. What gets me is he says "I wasn't always this manipulative <explitive> until I was with <soon to be ex wife #3> and her family." He doesn't realize how close I am to my mother in law (his first ex wife) and that I know the details of their relationship. He was just as manipulative then as now. I understand he is having a hard time starting over right now, but boy has our stress level gone up!
If it is little stuff, try to ignore it. If it's bigger stuff, then confront him. Don't rely on 2nd (or 3rd or 4th) hand knowledge. 
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