Anger and hate are two different emotions for me. Even anger is hard for me, and usually only lasts briefly. Like I said, HATE is cancer to the soul for me, and I just can't feel it. The closest I've ever come to hate is toward my ex-son-in-law who was abusive to my one daughter while they were married for three years. He was an alcoholic/addict/drug dealer and put her thru Hell, which I only found out after she left him. He wrecked two cars (while drunk) I had bought for her and nearly killed and did cripple a grad student at Univ. of KY. I was just glad she got away from him!
In my own personal life, I have been emotionally abused by several men. I accepted the anger as part of the stage of recovery, but never felt hate. The emotion that arrives after I work thru the anger is INDIFFERENCE