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Originally Posted by chaotic13
Blue... Although I would likely judge MYSELF a being weak if I teared up... I don't think I would see my T as being weak... Hmmm another double standard, have to look at that one.
I think I would have trouble handling that much empathy from my T because I would feel bad that I made her cry.
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This is something, Chaotic. I wouldnt see myself as weak, Id see myself as being too vulnerable and my t as being weak if she teared up. I wonder why the diff between the way we would feel about it. Would you feel "weak" or "vulnerable" when you cry?
But, for sure, Id feel bad that I made her cry, especially if she were the type to not do that. If I made desk-t cry I think Id faint first and feel bad later
In the case of Tree's t or my previous (male) t who I saw for 10 yrs, I dont see either of them as weak. My previous teared up, we both teared up together. It was a different kind of relationship, which is why I can SO relate to Tree's t, but the relationship went too far with my previous t and Tree's t isnt like him in that way. But in a sense I DO understand where Tree's t is coming from in a lot of ways b/c my previous t was very, very much like him. But with, um, a big boundry difference....