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Originally Posted by theotterone
I know it is hard to do, but if you have time to "cool down", try writing things out as objectively as possible.
Admittedly, I have struggled with this in the past. Since going on Adderall, I've been able to slow down and look at the consequences of my words and actions before I say/do something. This has been incredibly helpful, especially as of late.
I always had a hard time "journaling". I found notebooks I like (unfortunately, they are kinda spendy) and pens that I like the "sensation" of writing with. (I'm weird that way, but on a regular sharpened pencil, when you have that little piece of graphite that is a little harder then the rest, writing with it is much like fingernails on a chalkboard for me). I even "labeled" my notebooks "Inspirational" when I feel my words are more ornate then practical, "Discovery" for when I am writing about the things in my life I am discovering that goes beyond my normal perceptions, and "Write To Rant" for when I need to write out raw emotions to help figure them out or need to bring something up in Family Therapy so I don't get confused. My BFF laughs at me a little about it, but if it works, I'm going with it! I agree with Hunny, in the sense it is hard. Things are more "real" and harder to deny or ignore when you have written it down. I have found motivation to go through this pain to figure things out, but there are times I will write something and have to put it aside because it is "too much" at that moment.
D and I are communicating better than ever, partly because I am so much calmer and can see things so much more clearly. He even gave me a "back-handed" complement last night. When you see it you'll understand why I describe it that way. "You are a lot smarter than I ever thought you were!" (He almost got smacked for that one. Almost).
Good Luck! 
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Now that I know were I stand on my epelepsy surgery, it has really calmed me down, and along with journaling and asking myself power questions everyday, and the advice I am getting here I find the communication bettween hubby and I to start getting better. I find this site to really help me. Thank you very much.