I've been dating my boyfriend Matt one year and eight months come tomorrow. I love him more than anything, but lately I've been fighting with him a lot. He's not the same person anymore. See... months ago he promised me that he was done smoking pot. He swore up and down that he was done and and promised to me numerous times that that was out of his life forever. About 3 weeks ago we got into a bad fight and we were both really stressed out with one another, and so he went out with friends and smoked with them. I received an anonymous call telling me that he was stoned. I called him about 100 times and finally when he answered I confronted him about it. He lied straight to my face, said he wasn't doing it, and snapped out on me for even "accusing" him of it, but when I told him about the phone call, he finally admitted to me that he did do it. I was depressed for quite some time but after about a day or arguing, I moved on, and he promised me it would never happen again.

2 days ago we got into another huge fight, he was so stressed out that he said he wanted a 2 day break from me, and then said that he promises he won't be doing anything he shouldn't be doing. Last night I get another anonymous call saying he was smoking with his friends again. So I called and called and called and called and called. He wouldn't answer. Finally I get a text from him saying, "Why are you still calling me, we're on a break, remember?" and I said it was important and that I needed to talk to him. He still refused. I then called from a private number and he answered. I asked him why he would do something like that again, and then lied AGAIN. And he tried coming up with a million and one excuses as to why I might have gotten that call. And then finally he admitted it to me.

He says he still wants to be with me, and that he loves me, and that he was just stressed from everything. He said he didn't mean to hurt me, but honestly what do I do now? Most of our fights stem from me not trusting him. He wants me to trust him and wants me to believe him when he tells me something, but how do you trust someone who's going behind your back and lying to you and breaking promises? I couldn't even talk to him about it last night cause he was so whacked out of his mind, and then fell asleep on me since it does make you tired. See, I used to do it, but I quit because I knew it wasn't good for me, and because he hated seeing me like that. We both quit for each other and I never once went back to it, and he was good about it for months, and now all of a sudden he's smoking again? How do I ever know when he's telling me the truth? I don't know what to do, I'm so lost. And I need advice. I can't stop crying. I feel like he's tearing our relationship apart... I don't wanna leave cause I love him so much, but I don't know what else I can do.