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Old Oct 23, 2009, 07:37 AM
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I am trying to understand what transference means. Is it a good or a bad thing? Will I know it's happening? Will my T know? Can this happen with someone other that your T?
It can be "positive" (relate to T like you did with nice mom) or "negative" (relate to T like bad mom). You may not realize it is happening, until you get experience with it. A T should recognize it, but not all do. Yes, it can happen with someone other than T.

Transference has its problems, because it means you are reacting to something not as it is, but in terms of something from another time.

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Is there a thread, website or something that can explain it?
Well, to start there is always Wikipedia!
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