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Old Oct 23, 2009, 12:41 PM
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Originally Posted by SUNNY2009 View Post
When my friend talks about being with men and around men and flirting with men and socializin with men....I freeze up.

I dont know how to be around a man and feel comfortable, I feel inadequate, I feel like I just cant open up and I cant see me in a relationship.

someday I think I would like to be in a relationship but something inside of me is shut off....
Hi Sunny! You can work through this eventually. I had to work through this. What I worked on were healthy boundaries, learning how to recognize and meet my needs, standing up for my self (empowerment/control), working through my stored, unexpressed feelings and learning how to express new ones and improving my self worth. It took some time and the work was gradual. Self understanding is how you get there and then problem solving.

I can understand how you would fear losing your T. I am glad that you have a good one!

I am sorry that you have some stressors going on now.....
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Thanks for this!
SUNNY2009