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Oct 23, 2009, 01:31 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,087
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Cypher, I'm going to echo what some others already said. The "tapes" keep playing even after the parent dies. My father has been dead 12 years now. On bad days I still find myself trying to prove my worth to him. It's up to me to take charge of what's going on in my head and hit the stop button on the tape. I couldn't please him when he was alive. I sure as heck am not going to please him now that he's dead! 
I'm glad to hear you have a T. Keep working on this in therapy. Some others mentioned sitting your mother and step-father down and tell them how their comments make you feel. Might be a good idea. It might not change how they act/speak to you, but would empower you.
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