Pimprenelle - Thank you for your response. My therapist agrees with you that this really isn't about what I did but what is REALLY going on between them (either now or in the past).

At the end of the phone conversation where my friend told me her husband didn't want us associating with each other any more, she mentioned that since I had a T appt. that afternoon, mention it to my T and see what she says (about her husband's reaction). I did this and then relayed my T's interpretation back to my friend. My friend got VERY DEFENSIVE when I told her my T's take on this...and now she really won't talk to me anymore. She has said that I've twisted everything around to make the problem about her and her husband when its all about my husband and me.

I have left her alone for the last week in the hopes that things will settle down. Not sure if there's any hope for us as friends (after some of the things that were said) but I am doing better about it. It especially helps that I totally trust my T and now that my husband is in therapy too, things have gotten much better (even though we have a ways to go). Thanks again!

Oh, where in France do you live? I adore Paris