Tree, I love that story! And it does show the importance of us bringing up to our T's issues we have with something T may have said or done that we don't understand or don't like.

About 2 months ago, my T made a comment about our relationship still being new (this was after being with T for 4 months). I was hurt and bothered, so I brought it up at our next session - T explained herself and saw how her comment could be upsetting to me. And then T said that she realized how intense therapy is for me, and how precious it is to me to finally "get real" with someone, that she knows I've been waiting my whole life to do that - T says she sees patients, and she's been in therapy herself, but that I was a good reminder to her that therapy can really be this intense experience. Ever since that session, we've played with the intensity - up and down, trying to find the right fit. T has said again, more than once, how she knows and sees that this is intense and exciting and scary for me. So it feels good, to be able to remind T of something like that, and to maybe think that I got T a little more excited about doing her job.