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Cypher,
You were very brave to express what you were thinking and how you felt.
I think you clearly expressed that you meant them no harm. I also think that you clearly explained the reason you said what you said. You explained that every time you talked to your mother she re-emphasized feelings that made you feel terrible. I'm not going to repeat what you said. You said it very well and expressed yourself completely. I do not think that you were being imature, either.
I do not think that just because there are people here on this forum who disagree with the sentiments that you expressed that they should try to change your feelings or coerce you into expressing your feelings with different words. The words you used were fine because that was the way you were feeling.
Sometimes our parents have a hold on us and we are tied to them with bindings that are extremely strong and we believe that only in death will these ties be disolved. That may be the case with you and your mother.
I was not close to my mother. I left the town where my parents lived when I was 20. I felt like I had no choice because I had to escape the stigma of growing up their child.
It was a good decision.
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 Vickie
Last edited by VickiesPath; Oct 23, 2009 at 08:36 PM.
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