hi bridgett, welcome to PC . i hope you stick around, i love it when we get newbies .

i don't think you did anything wrong, at all. so please put your mind to rest on that one. you won't be in trouble.

re: your T. i am conflicted about what to say. i do think she probably crossed professional boundaries, but i'm not sure if i would then say you need to terminate or be 'wary' of her. given that i'm not in your situation (so wouldn't be feeling all the same anxiety as you are!), i think i would go back next week and try to discuss what happened and make sure both of you are on the same page.

Ts can experience very strong feelings towards us too, which also makes them get caught up in the moment (even though, as professionals, we would hope they could keep that distance). it is not necessarily a 'sexual' feeling e.g., my current T has admitted to me that he feels very strongly about me, almost wants to 'save' me and he needs to be aware of that so it doesn't interfere with our therapy. i know a lot of parents who give their children a quick peck on the lips (it's a european thing?) and maybe if your T is feeling motherly towards you then she might have also been caught up with the unexpected development.

i am just throwing out possibilities, because - given that you've had such a productive relationship with her so far - i think it would be a shame to see this as a red flag and terminate prematurely. i think that your strong professional past history with your T could allow you to at least discuss what happened - you explain the way you saw things develop, and your confusions - and T also explain what happened from her end. then you can decide whether this relationship (the therapy relationship!) is something worth continuing.

like everyone else, of course, i would advise you to run for the hills if your T suggests anything beyond a therapeutic relationship can develop (friendship, mentor, romantic relationship). but i think i would want to see what the actual facts are first before making any decisions.