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Oct 23, 2009, 09:31 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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  HUGS FOR YOU SWEETY HUGS!!!
Hang in there....this could get even more rough...but ultimately, you can not be responsible for being your mom's mom. You have to let her make her own decisions....even if they have horrible consequences for her. Right now...all she is seeing/feeling is the pain and the only thing that she knows that will make it better...for the short term is the drugs. The thing is, like now, at some point...the drugs always run out. I'd like to see your mom get with a therapist if she has one, or get one if she doesn't and learn some healthier coping skills. I bet you'd like to see that too?
The hard truth is....you and your siblings and your granddad can WANT it all you want...but if your mom doesn't want it and won't change her behaviors....all the screaming and the sobbing isn't going to change anything. The reality is....your mom may leave. She may choose the drugs over her relationships with her children and father. It's horrible that she is stuck in this place of selfishness with her pain and her problems...but this is where she is. 
Be prepared.....She could leave, and to be honest....if your granddad is smart, he won't let her come back until she is working her program and choosing healthier coping skills. It is more detrimental to you and your siblings to have your mom around....coming and going for her pills/drugs and selling off stuff and fighting. You deserve a peaceful household and if mom can't do that for you now...then maybe it's best if she work her program solo for a while.
The good news is....you will be okay!!! You will be devastated yes, but you have a granddad who is setting some good boundaries for his household who sounds like he cares, and you have a roof over your head and food in your stomach. 
Basically....you can't keep your mom from leaving. If she really wants to leave, she'll do it. Whether your blocking the door or not.
You are supposed to be a child....and your mother is supposed to be your mother. Not the other way around. 
Take care sweety....and keep posting to let us know how things are if you like. 
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