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Originally Posted by treehouse
It seems like we often wonder here if we should bring things up with our T's when they do things that bother us... if I hadn't brought that up, I wonder if T would have recognized his big mistake? I love that he said it made him a better therapist  |
I think it is good to bring things up, especially if they are a pattern. If the T does a certain thing once or twice, I don't dwell on it, but if it happens regularly, then I am more apt to want to discuss it. So if my T were pre-occupied often, I would probably think something big was going on in his life, and I would probably ask him about it. There was one time I told him that something he did bothered me, and he said, "thank you for telling me that." He seemed very sincere and not at all defensive. And he stopped doing it. But it is starting to manifest in a different form now....
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That session was almost TWO YEARS ago! I can't believe it's still so important in both of our minds.
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I think it would be really interesting to ask our Ts what have been some of the most memorable sessions (with us) for them. I wonder what my T would say? (I guess I hope he would be able to remember something!) I think it's really cool, treehouse, that the same session was so significant to both you and your T.
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Originally Posted by BlueMoon6
this is a good example of where a t can be more sensitive to what a client MAY be feeling. And it ties in with this thing about a t swtiching gears and being preoccupied in a session. What should we do? What should t do? Say, "Im sorry, Ms. Client, I cant be completely with ya right now, Im having a moment of distraction."  Im talking about when they arent fully aware of the effect it has on us |
I think learning to switch gears and fully be there for the client is something the T gets better at with experience. I heard somewhere once that when searching for a T, try to find one with at least 10 years experience, as by then, they would have had a lot of practice developing skills like that. I'm not sure I agree with this 10 year suggestion (and certainly some Ts don't learn certain things no matter how long they practice), but I can see that many Ts' skills would get better as time passes.