Hi there,

I'm going to disagree with the consensus here. If it caught her by suprise, maybe it was just an instinctual reaction. If it was thought out/planned, such as a longing, I'd say it was not a good thing....

Our T relationships are all so unique, so it's hard to say. I once had a T hug me on occasion. People seem to think differently of opposite genders sometimes..but she was a she (and I am a she), and although she was gay (and I straight) I never thought anything of it besides the warm, but casual gesture that it was.

About the cultural aspect that was raised--I am here in the US, and one of my best friends kisses on the lips all the time. She is Italian-American, so her family has been doing this for many years, and it is just habit for her. There is nothing sexual about it; just a gesture of affection. She kisses both males and females.

I wouldn't make a habit of it! If this is a longing, it may not be a good thing to do...but if it was just a gesture of affection, and maybe caught T by surprise, I don't see the big deal here. It was just a little peck-sounds pretty distant from a sexual-attraction type kiss.