I feel bad...I should have made clear who the BIL is. None of my hubbies family lives here or has contact with us. Hubby would be all alone if not for us. His problem is he is too good and very introverted. He is so proud when we do things. He gets very upset when people from my family but in. He just does not have the emotional mucsle to defend him self.

My sisters always tell me what to do and how to dress and what to do with my hair. It is like they are molding me or trying to make me into what they think I should be and look like and become. They get upset if I stand my ground on something even if it is hair color or hair style or....well, what ever they have an opinion on.

One actually courned me at my mom house want to see my teeth. Telling me what I needed to do with my teeth and this and that. Felt like....no dinity at all. Nothing I do satisfies them and they never appear to be finished with the instructions or critisisums.
Always "This is what you should do"......No matter what, I am always on the out side of the family. Kind of on the periphery...the outer edges.

Pathetic huh?


This BIL is my older sisters husband.

There are 10 of us. I am #9 with 8 older sisters and 1 younger brother.

My hubby says nothing because he has Aspergers and was physicaly abused by his first wife. He has his own issues. I feel sorry for him. He will introvert sometimes too.

He comforts me but like me he can not really do confrontation too good.
He is very, very nice and supportive of me and helps me and I help him.
I do not blame him nor am I making excuses for him, he is just in the same boat emotionally as I am.

My hubby is really nice and kind but very miss inturpeted as unambitous and lazy.
He has a very hard time leaving the house. The kids do not understand this, but they love him to death. They just idolize him.

That is why I was doing all of this myself. Hubby just can't.