((((crystal))))
i'm glad you have pdoc to help you while T is away. please don't feel bad about not saying anything on the phone, i don't think T will be upset about it. pdoc has told me on a number of occassions when ppl very important to him have passed away, but it was only the last time that i was able to say anything (the following week!). usually i just put my head down, i don't know why. but i think they just tell us so we can know they're not rejecting us/whatever reason, not because they need our empathy. it was good of you to txt her, though.