Just give yourself time as you discover who you are. First you might make a list of your needs and wants. Then pick just one. The easiest one. I find it is easier to obtain small goals and it is easier to see your progress. It is easier to fail when we have set the standard way to high.

expressing my needs - eeek!
that is one I struggle with. How to ask for what I need.
Or how to just say what I feel at the time to the person and being direct....yikes! thats another one.....
Empoerment / control ....
expressing.... All of these are lost on me, so far but I am working at it. I just wsh I could figure this stuff out quicker but my brain just doesnt work that way.

Anyway....thanks again! I hope you have a great weekend [/quote]