<font color=blue>What Zenobia wrote sounds like a fantastic solution. I wanted to add that the entire family may want to go to family counseling. Basically, he will learn how he effects others and everyone will learn how they effect eachother. I don't know if it is finacially feasible but I've heard great things about family counseling, too. I've also seem the dynamics in action in counseling classes. If this interests you it would be a good idea to look for a Family and Marriage Psychologist meaning one who specializes. That's your best bet if you go with counseling.

And I'm sorry you are going through such hell with him. I sense you feel desperate to change things. I also believe you must be hurting from how he is acting toward you. The kid sounds very angry. Well, imagine his own mother doesn't even want him. So, you and him share hurt feelings and anger. It happened to me, too, and I was so hurt it came out in anger when I was a teen. My mom rejected me and then I was so angry and was fighting with my dad a lot. He did acknowledge what my mom did hurt me badly. Took me years to get a grip on it but now I have a relationship with my mom. The one with my dad isn't as good, unfortunately.

Anyway, welcome to the forums. Hope you'll write more and give us updates. We are anxious to help and listen here. Take care, CQ</font color=blue>

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