This is a very difficult situation and I'm sorry this happened to you. Normally I would tell a victim of abuse to leave. But since this is the first time and yes I know the saying - "if he hits you once he'll do it again" - I think you should talk with him and see if he's willing to get into some anger management counselling. If he's not willing to do this - then yes you should leave when he's not around.
Having a baby is a wonderful experience - but it's also a very stressful time as well. I think you both would benefit from taking parenting classes and how to handle situations when the baby is unconsolable. You're doing the right thing with keeping a packed bag with money. If your husband is willing to get anger management counselling right away - then I think it's okay to stay. An appointment needs to be made Monday morning. Be safe and best of luck.
** Please know that I'm not advocating you stay in an abusive relationship. It's just since this is the first time and he seems remorseful and shocked - I think he would benefit from immediate anger management counselling. The stress of a new baby and lack of sleep can strain emotions to the breaking point. This won't go away on its own. If he doesn't commit 100% to the counselling idea then I recommend leaving **
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Last edited by lynn P.; Oct 24, 2009 at 01:17 PM.
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