i didnt have to talk to my laters, get to know them or socialize with them in any way. in fact whereI recieved my therapy calling out alters to talk to them socialize with them, switch on purpose, have internal dialogues was not what they did because their rules they have to work by stated this kind of thing could promote something called false memory syndrome where the clients may possibly create more alters and memories just to please the therapist,whether they were aware of doing so or not.

I had a few alters that did things like smoke, get drunk, have sex, pick up strangers. the way we worked out the situaiton was by looking at my own personal needs and wants to see what was lacking or what was triggering me into these alters. once we took care of the situaiton I did not switch into those negative alters and behavours. in the situaiton of picking up strangers and having sex the problem was I was not satisified and getting what I needed through the partner that I had at that time. and other times I was getting triggered during sex with my partner so I would go long periods without. The stronger the urge in me the more I sought out others. So I ended up having to take a sex ed class for women and learning how to please myself. once I learned what pleased myself I was able to be more open with my partner and take what I learned about pleasuring myself and bring it into the time my partner and I spend together. Along the way that alter merged with me and became one with me because their job of making sure my intimate needs were taken care of without my needing to switch into that alter.

I was taught that alters are part of me and if thats so with you then a part of you does think about those things so on some level you do do whether you are aware of doing so or not. Talk with your boyfriend, therapist or take a class where you can learn about your intimate needs in a safe way and then as you learn what pleases you carry it into your intimate life with your boyfriend.