Hey Bridgie so sorry to hear about your friend. Inny is right on about all that. My mom had MS and all we could do was help her. Offer our ears to her. It helps people dealing with chronic illnesses a lot to just be able to talk to someone. Get stuff off of their chests. Or to have an extra hand if they need help with kids, housework, etc. Like Inny said you don't want to make her feel dependant but let her know you are there for anything she may need. Good luck to you and your friend. She's in my prayers