i did not mean to upset or hurt you. i gave you my take on it. i care about what happens with you, your son and your wife. i would not have gone to that much trouble to answer you, had i not cared. i'm sorry if you didn't want to hear it. i'm also sorry that your wife provides you with the temptation of smoking. i'm glad that you take your child for walks and play with him. i couldn't pick that up from your message. i'm not putting you down, far from it. i was very touched by your post and tried to answer it, as honestly as i thought you wanted it. perhaps you didn't want to hear it and i'm sorry....pat