When masturbating, take a long time. Delay orgasm for longer and longer periods. Train yourself to 'hold back'.

Mentally, 'switch focus' before you hit that 'point of no return.' Distract yourself if you get too caught up in the heat of the moment.

I read a book on Tantric sex back in my 20's by a writer by the name of Mantac Chia (I think). It was called Cultivating Male Sexual Energy as I recall. It had all sorts of exercises that have stayed with me for years. One was called "the Dance of the Testes." It involved finding the muscles that you can use to move your balls. It took me MONTHS to find those muscles, and was a very special accomplishment when I did.

The point is that there are lots of books out there on better sex. Make it a project!

Mike