augh! I just wrote a big reply and the internet ate it anyway shorter version :P you're all fantastic, thankyou SO much for all the helpful ideas!!!
Seeker ((HUGS)) I'm sorry things went a bit bad for you.. I know the feeling... I hope the forums help me as much as they seem to have helped you though
MacD your words are so wonderful, thankyou from the bottom of my heart for posting them, yet another gem of wisdom I'll keep close when things are looking bleak!