Thanks for the replies.... this person is definitely a friend out of love and common goals - it is her lack of self growth from clinical depression and childhood wounds that disrupted, interfered with our relationship. I received help for my issue and have greatly healed over the last ten years, where she is still wallowing around in self pity and blaming others for her mishaps and bad life - that which brings me down emotionally when I am around her to long (she complains 24/7).

Over all I would say that I am concerned about the safety of my own "mental being" if I allow her back into my the life in her present condition.... I was told by her daughter that my friend is in counseling now.... 2 months into it. I pray and send good vibes her way that she will finally be ready to open up and let healing take place for both her and her daughter's sake.