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Originally Posted by billieJ
What do you mean "somewhat unfaithful"? Migraine and nausea can certainly be rooted in emotional suppression. Sounds like you are able to talk to your T about this issues, since he/she seemed to know about them. I don't see that T was disappointed in you, just giving you some guidence as to what you will need to do to work on these issues.
Why do you see group as a human laboratory? Don't the other members have issues just as you do that are painful for them? Maybe if you take the lead in disclosing about your husband's infidelity, it will give them courage to disclose something they need to. One exercise we used to do in group was to address an empty chair as though it was the person who had hurt us or the person we needed to talk to for any reason. That chair could be your husband.
I think that, if you just can't disclose to anyone irl right now, continuing to post here will help. Hope you will keep us updated. billieJ
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My T is aware of my issues, as I brought them to the surface early on in therapy - but then we focused on the immediate stressors of my life - like separating from and divorcing from an unhealthy marriage. But I've been hesitant to go back to dealing with the painful topics. It's as if my husband was a great distraction...and now that he's no longer the immediate crisis, I am left with just me...and my issues.
Our group is gestalt based and has been described as a human relations laboratory....so we can learn how we relate, how we handle differences, etc. "in the moment"....I am sure that this topic can be useful to others...I guess I just need to have the courage to go there, and at the moment, I don't.
The other members in my group have shared certain issues - but it seems as though my issues are too much for this kind of group. They've talked about their childhood, what's brought them to group, their struggles, etc....but none of them have shared being physically or sexually abused as a child....unless that's something they've been holding back. I shared some of the physical abuse info with them, and I was so traumatized by their reactions that I ended up sick for days. I don't want to go through that again.