I was with my BF for seven years before he started battering me. In the first seven years we had fights with yelling and door slamming and I would be angry. But then the abuse began and instead of anger I had fear. At first he "just" choked me or "just" shoved me hard enough to slam my head through a wall. No he never broke any bones and I never ended up in ICU so I thought it was "mild" abuse and because I loved him I stayed. Things got worse. Much worse.

If you wait for it to get worse it likely will and your child will be witness to the abuse. My BF never directly abused our son but my son would hide in fear when he heard the abuse.

He absolutely needs reform and anger management training. Until he can be angry and walk away you should not be with him. It is natural to feel anger but how one deals with that feeling makes all the difference.