I'm sorry she is doing this to you. I HATE it when my parents rag on each other. My dad talking about my mom or vise versa is one thing but when my dad's new wife starts talking about my mom I want to punch her. And my parents have been separated for 15 years! And they still can barely be in the same room together! Oh well.

Well I hope things go okay with you guys. I know that when this all happened with my dad I just cut off all contact. He had me move out before I graduated high school so he could go move in with his girlfriend an hour away. So I was 17 living on my own going to high school lol. So I just decided that relationship was too much for me to handle so I flat out stopped talking to him. I didn't see him from probably May 2005 until March 2006. And the only reason I saw him then was because my niece was born. I didn't even see him on Christmas or Thanksgiving. Sounds like maybe you just need to take a break from her. You need to focus on how to make yourself happy. She obviously is not too concerned with how this makes you feel so take some time for yourself. You don't deserve that and you deserve to listen to your mother talk badly about your father.