Hi faustjg,

Firstly it really seems like your mother is frustrated with something else besides you and is taking that frustration out on the one person who she'll know will take it. People don't have to be so organized but then some are and they have a difficult time understanding how there could be "organization in disorganization." I did this for a long time and in one room of my house now I still do that I'm working on it. (new baby gets into EVERYTHING)

I'm not quite sure what the resolution to your issue with her is aside from Lynn's suggestion to get some plastic organizers which could make things neater looking. Do you have any space under your bed, or in your closet where you could stack some things?

As for her comments about being "unladylike" and men not wanting you, etc. IMO honestly I feel that that's rubbish. People have their own style and don't have to be ladylike or anything and speaking from a man's perspective, we don't even really care and anyone you end up with needs to love and care about you just for YOU and not how organized or disorganized you may seem.

I hope you can get it straightened out with her and you can get some peace.

Best wishes,
Chris