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I don't know what to do. I'm barely holding my own head above water financially and having a difficult time just looking after me. All of the sudden I have the guilt of putting her in a bad position financially. I feel like I have to stick around now in order to keep her afloat. I can't do that though. I can't take on her issues when I can barely take care of my own. I can't be responsible for keeping her electricity on. I am doing my best to give her money when I get it so that I can pay the rent to her...but ultimately her stuff has to be her stuff. I did not sign up to be responsible for keeping her life in balance.
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That sounds so healthy! I was going to say this stuff to you (had my response going in my mind when I started reading your second post), but then you already knew it!! I am proud of you for being logical about it all. She (sadly) has a house she cannot afford. Whether you are there or not, she is still in a situation where she cannot afford her bills. You are doing the right thing moving out. You have to do what is good for you. Perhaps she can move out herself (or sell if it is her home) so that she can be more comfortable financially. Sounds like a big house for just one or 2 people to use. I know the next few weeks will probably suck, but you have the awesomeness of freedom to look forward to. Help her if you can, but don't obligate yourself to take care of her.
Good luck.